Understanding DV’s Impact on Safe Exchange & Supervised Visitation


Hosted by the New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence and

Presented by the New Mexico Administrative Office of the Courts Safe Exchange and Supervised Visitation Program

Date: May 14

Registration & Continental Breakfast: 8:00 - 8:30 a.m.
Training: 8:30 - 4:30 p.m.

Location: Albuquerque, NM

Courtyard Marriott-Albuquerque
5151 Journal Center Blvd NE
Albuquerque, NM 87109
(Google Map Link)

Cost: FREE - Please register at the bottom of the page.

Whether by Court order and/or the reality of having children in common, most battered women end up having to navigate parenting around their former partner until children reach adulthood, regardless of the severity of abuse they have experienced.  Safe Exchange & Supervised Visitation services can help support safety over this time period by the relationships it builds, regardless of whether it is part of a family’s life for six months or several years.

Through this training, you will learn about:Safeexchange

  • Fostering safety for children and adult victims while counter-acting battering tactics
  • Ensuring your program offers a valuable neutral space for visits and exchanges, yet not overlooking the controlling or threatening behavior of men who batter
  • Continually gauging and accounting for the risk of harm to the child and victim by staying connected with battered women
  • Building respectful relationships with men who batter to weaken the opportunity and inclination for abuse
  • Helping men who batter to stop harmful parenting and cultivate supportive parenting by focusing on the well being of the child, and not on the other parent
  • Recognizing attempts by men who batter to use your program to reinforce power, control and intimidation
  • Avoiding manipulation and unintentional collusion, while holding men who batter accountable for their tactics and behavior


  •  Laura J. Connelly, Advocates for Family Peace, Grand Rapids, MN, and national trainer on Supervised Visitation and Domestic Violence
  •  Kristin Carmichael, LISW, Santa Fe, NM, domestic violence consultant, presenter and author of the book, “X that Ex”

X That Ex Book Cover - KristinMs. Carmichael will have copies of her book for sale at the training, and will be available to autograph them.  She is donating 10% of the proceeds to the New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Kristin Carmichael takes a decade’s worth of experience in the trenches of the domestic-violence movement and synthesizes for readers a recipe to not just leave an abusive relationship - but to remain gone in her book,  X That Ex: Making a Clean Break When the Relationship is Over.  Rooted in her experience as a shelter manager, counselor and advocate, Ms. Carmichael breaks down for readers a myriad of tactics employed by abusive and manipulative exes that serve to ensnare women in a web of exodus and return in bad relationships.  Told with humor, compassion and a straight-forward and earnest voice, Ms. Carmichael’s approach is accessible to experienced members of the domestic-violence community, academics and lay persons alike.

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Questions? Please contact Kathy at aockbs@nmcourts.gov or call (505) 827-4808
For registration concerns please contact Alisha Chavez at alishac@nmcadv.org or (505) 554-6536

We are sorry but registration for this event is now closed.

Please contact us if you would like to know if spaces are still available.